This is my first attempt to document my introspections. I have been reflecting on similar topics late in the night, often disrupting my sleep, yet unable to recall my thoughts the next day. When I was chatting with one of my friend this morning, he mentioned that people change without being noticed. This argument is a compelling starting point.

Personal Experiences of Change

First, I will write down my experiences. I changed in my middle school, high school, and in university with different reasons.

  1. In my middle school, I was frustrated by my slow progress in math, so I transformed from complacency to modesty.
  2. In my high school, I realized that effort outweights talent, which motivates me to work diligently.
  3. In university, I believed that study is never on the top of my life. I became more caring and thoughtful (at least trying to be more thoughtful).

Reflections on Change

  1. These changes are far from trivial, because they collectively shape the person I am today.
  2. Most of these shifts are triggered from setbacks with irreversible results.

I have come to believe that people’s mind evolves on changes as a survival mechanism in challenging environments, a form of self-protection.

Deeper Questions

Why do people change affections, like Love?

My own experiences are passive, meaning they are driven by external factors. Active, intentional changes, however, are rooted in their core personal values (核心价值观). People actively choose a path that is align with their best personal fulfillment.

I conclude that people change dur to the interplay of the environment, passion, and time. They change because they want to protect themselves in changing or harsh environment, or make self-achievements like personal growth or satisfactions.

The environment, in particular, shapes people by creating new memories and emotional responses. These experiences redefine how individuals perceive themselves, ultimately influencing their behaviors and decisions.